Adjustments

November 19, 2013

Hello Loves!!

Time is going by so fast with pregnancy number two. I know people told me it was going to be so different: you are busy with number one and just life in general. ** to As with a first pregnancy where you can spent every moment remembering you are pregnant.

He is so Ridiculous!! Love this little man so MUCH

I remember when I was preggo with lil man and everyday was a new discovery ... lungs are developing, all his senses were being tested, what size he was this week- but this one I am only reminded when she gives my a little "what up mommy? whats going on out there? talk to me.!!"


One reason I can not forget that I am preggo is that lil man is acting a bit like a jealous sibling already.  The child that was so excited to have a baby on the way is making us start to think he's going to bit more of challenge than we thought.... is he getting jealous already or is this his way of adapting and getting ready for the big change in our family.

Lately lil J is all about Mommy- for example lil man will sneak into our room in the middle of the night with his teddy bears and stand in front of Mr.M and wake him by plainly stating "Daddy can you go to my bed, now I want to sleep with mommy". If hubby refuses or pretends to keep sleeping, it becomes a bit of a standoff as he has been able to keep this up for 30mins and then will break into sobs.  I admit that because it is easier at 3 in the morning for hubs to leave and head to lil man's room than to try and wait him out or put him back into his room (he just keeps coming back). So sadly it has been more than a month since Mr. M has had a restful sleep in his own bed... Although considering he works nights and shift work, I think secretly he doesn't mind having his own bed to catch up on some sleep.

On another occasion  I was leaving for a lunch date this  and lil man tried every move in the book to stop me from going out. Hiding my purse, blocking the door, sobbing, screaming, blocking me. It was such odd behavior because Mr M was home and usually lil J loves Daddy time. Needless to say I made my escape and thought "ok, he will calm down once he can't see me anymore and he has Daddy to himself"- boy was I wrong. 45mins into lunch I noticed I had three missed calls from Mr. M which is strange because we usually don't call one another during me time, and hubs certainly isn't one for calling me for anything unless it's urgent.  So I called him back and guess what? Lil man was still sobbing and trying to escape out the front door to go and find mommy.. not gonna lie, it was heartbreaking to see how upset he was. It must of been a tough go because Mr. M is pretty much super Dad and can handle anything. We even managed to Facetime so that he could see and talk to me, but it didn't work as he only wanted me there in person.
So long story short, I finished up my lunch date a little quicker than I was intending to and headed home. Getting home I found my lil man tuckered out and still having a little cry for mommy on daddy's shoulder....

I am sure this is not something new and lots of parents with preschoolers expecting a baby sibling must go through this... I would love any helpful hints on how to help lil J adjust to his new sibling .. right now our game plan is for Mr. M and Lil J to have lots of FUN Daddy son time and hopefully that will ease lil man into being able to not have Mommy accessible to him 100% of the time. So far the men of the family have been going out on excursions together such as errands, walks in the neighbourhood, and quiet time at home.

Thanks for letting me share LOVES!!

XOXO
A


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